:: arguements ::

Talking and listening are probably the most important skills in a relationship. There'll always be tensions and disagreements, but if you can communicate well, you can overcome almost any problem. agreeable? yeah. of course.
how do people react?there are people who will sleep thru it and will be ok with it the next morning. some will just go on and on like there is no tomorrow. some will act as if nothing happened. some will take it to their parents. some appoint counsellors. some will sit and think thru it in the most peaceful manner. some will share it with friends. some will talk to their pets. some take it out on drinking. some do take revenge.
all the above mentioned are tiny ways on how people react when they reach to some disagreement. of cos there are more not being listed... it could possibly fill up my entire blog page. heh!

so does reprimanding works? yes it does... no it doesnt. to some, they couldve got their lesson learnt and never to repeat the same mistakes again. but to some its just like someone undressing him/her in public. or maybe a dunk to the morale and will never get their lesson learnt.

myself, have problem with arguements. i do behave strangely when in one. sometimes, i will keep quiet. sometimes i will burst out in anger. sometimes i will bring it to sleep. sometimes i will drag it in me for days. (without letting the other knowing of course) but from what i've observed so far, i will keep the silent and then try to reason out. i would prefer my arguements to finish off within that 24 hours itself. all these will be accompanied by the oblique face of course. as much as i wish to get it over and done with within the next few minutes, there is nothing much i can do. i will usually let it get its way and move on from there. is this my weakness? yes it is cos problem might not get resolved. no its not becos if two hot headed people collide, when will be the end?

my quarrells with friends usually didnt last till he/she becomes my enemy. with colleagues, it usually die off the next working day. with family, it will get over when some new topic or issue is being arised. with my other half, when we both start to think how much we love each other and how good we are at communicating with each other. tops of all these, i will usually ensure that i will be the first to apologise. even though i may not be in the wrong. but hey.. someone has to start rite. apology doesnt cost a single cent.. but it can be misused. for example when the problem is becoming persistent. a sorry could be taken for granted. which is also wrong. a day gone wrong and with me not apologizing will be so stressfull that it will affect my sleep. it might be even for the slightest matter. but i will never be at ease.
anyways, for couples who are in some arguements/quarells, its better to solve the issue right away. pull urself together before bursting out. know your conflict pattern/style. think about how to avoid the arguement. think of ways to make peace. learn from the arguements. talk and listen cos communication is still the best skill in a relationship. before ur lady starts to avoid ur calls, closing the door while ur still struggling with ur shoes outside her house, starts calling you by your full name .. u might want to think deep about this whole communication thingy.

true enough arguement sucks.. but it will still be there as long as u breathe... cos the bottomline is.. never two people are the same. so dont start thinking that you are always right and the way u solve things is how other solve theirs. communications.......

so much to write for the beggining of the month. wat the.. ok its 2am... time to sleep. good night all....morning i mean.... *yawn* i guess my babs is asleep. she left me again... didnt wait for me... nevermind. i'll smack her bum bums later after her class...